November 2012

I’ve decided to focus on how I’m using my words.  Both the words I speak out loud, and the words I use in my head to talk to myself.  Below I’ve pulled together the tips I’ve come across over the years.  Maybe you want to play with some of the ideas, too?

Try This!

How am I diffusing my power?  Where am I using “if-y” words that give me a way out? When do I just keep talking and fail to make a crystalized point?  I’m going to try these 5 tips:

  1. Remove “I think” from the beginning of sentences.
  2. Eliminate the use of “maybe” when responding to something.
  3. Avoid “sometimes” when describing something.
  4. Use “I will” instead of “I’ll try”.
  5. Avoid getting overly involved in the details of a story – make my point.

Where am I creating negative energy?  How do my words create defensiveness? When can I listen more? To see, I’m going to try these 6 ideas:

  1. Use “I can”, “I do”, or “I will” instead of “I can’t” or “I don’t” or “I won’t”.
  2. Use “Could” rather than “Should”.
  3. Use “I get to” in place of “I have to”.
  4. Ask “What?” instead of “Why?”.
  5. Say “And” in place of “But”.
  6. Allow silence versus filling space with words.

Quotes to Contemplate

  • Words are a form of action, capable of influencing change. Their articulation represents a complete, lived experience.  ~Ingrid Bengis
  • Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.  ~Buddha
  • Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.  ~Napolean Hill
  • All our words are but crumbs that fall down from the feast of the mind.  ~Khalil Gibran
  • By words we learn thoughts, and by thoughts we learn life.  ~Jean Baptiste Girard
  • Colors fade, temples crumble, empires fall, but wise words endure.  ~Edward Thorndike
  • I like good strong words that mean something.  ~Louisa May Alcott, Little Women

© copyright Vicki L. Flaherty, Leading With Intention, 2012


Author: Vicki L Flaherty

I am most alive when I am creating, whether through writing, gardening, photography, cooking, crafting, sewing... Running and yoga enrich my being. I am happiest when I’m with my husband Jim. Travel opens me to new possibilities and greater awareness. I find a special joy when I’ve helped someone see their brilliance and express their full potential. As I've focused on living more mindfully, I've found special joy in expressing myself through poetry and photography, and in truly being in relationship with those I meet along my journey.

6 thoughts on “Words”

  1. Words are such powerful things. I started to become really aware of that in the ’70’s when someone would call a group of older women ‘girls.’ Though it sounded endearing, I felt it was actually disrespectful for their age and wisdom. Then I started looking at how I talked about and to myself and others. It was and still is very enlightening. Thanks for the reminder to be conscious of my words. Great post. Great site. – Lorian (You may like this one: http://dogdaz.com/2012/11/17/11-17-12-blah-blah-blah-blah-blah/ )

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