I’ve been noticing how the way I show up affects what happens. Sometimes I impact a situation unintentionally, often because I am not fully present in the moment, like when I don’t notice how another person is feeling or what their words really ‘say’ about what they need, and I respond inappropriately or don’t respond at all. When I’m more aware – of myself, others, and the situation, my impact is more conscious and I can be intentional about what I say and do.
I’m curious about what I can create when I slow down enough to focus in the now versus be thoughtlessly in action. Is it better to get a lot of things done in ‘autopilot’ or to do fewer things so that I am experiencing them? What happens when I am absorbed in my own worries and thoughts, versus when I fully engage with another person? How does it feel when I consciously show up, versus not? What impact do I want to have?
1. Think about your interactions last week…one-on-one encounters with friends or time with family members or interactions during work-related conference calls or in-person meetings…and consider these questions:
- How did I show up?
- What was my experience of the meeting?
- How did my presence influence the experience for everyone involved?
2. Pick a meeting you will be having with someone sometime this week. Before the meeting, get clear on:
- How do I want to show up?
- What do I want to create in this encounter?
During your time together, tune in to these considerations:
- What is happening for me right now? Am I engaged?
- What is happening for the others? Are they engaged?
- How are things going? What kind of experience is it?
- How am I contributing to what’s being created?
Afterwards ask yourself the questions you considered in Step 1.
Quotes to Contemplate
- Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does. ~William James
- The only limit to your impact is your imagination and commitment. ~Tomy Robbins
- Small things done consistently create major impact. ~tumblergym.tumbler.com
- If you think you’re too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito. ~Anita Roddick 🙂
- Everyone has a unique role to fill in the world. Everyone, including and perhaps especially you, is indispensible. ~Nathaniel Hawthorne
- Don’t think about the future. Just be here now. Don’t think about the past. Just be here now. ~Ram Dass
- Genuine listening means suspending memory, desire, and judgment — and, for a moment at least, existing for the other person. Michael P. Nichols
- A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives. ~Jackie Robinson
- If one is out of touch with oneself, then one cannot touch others. ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh
- It is through our actions, words, and thoughts that we have a choice. ~Sogyal Rinpoche
- Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. ~Mother Teresa
- Life is a sum of all your choices. ~Albert Camus
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Photo by Vicki L. Flaherty, 2013 (Morning glories in Deia, Mallorca, Spain).
© copyright Vicki L. Flaherty, Leading With Intention, 2013