Creating Balance


Balance is something we create. We experience it physically in our bodies, emotionally through our feelings, and mentally through our inner dialogue and mindset. It’s not actually a real thing. It doesn’t exist outside of our experience of it.

Envision standing on a balance beam. What do you see? How do you feel? What thoughts are going through your mind? What emotions are you experiencing? What body sensations are you having? Were you balanced or off balance? Whichever you envisioned, now imagine the opposite. What do you see? How do you feel? What thoughts are going through your mind? What emotions are you experiencing? What body sensations are you having? How were your experiences different?

Like performing a flawless routine on a beam, to achieve the steadiness and equilibrium needed to be in balance requires focus. Focus is achieved through intentional use of our energy. When we move to a place where we are paying attention to the signal and not the noise and when we are tuning in to the calm instead of the chaos around us, we find balance.

Below are three practices you can try in order to discover and use your power to create balance.



Any time, any place, simply pause and notice your breath. No need to judge it or try to change it, just notice it. By bringing your attention to your breathing, you bring yourself into the present moment. As long as you are focusing on your breath, you are not anticipating the future or ruminating about the past – you are here now, where that sense of balance is possible.

This simple shift of noticing our breath is a way of moving us out of our always-on, analyzing, judging, evaluating, planning minds and into our bodies. We shift from thinking to feeling. The shift is important because it moves us to a place where we can be at choice. And, when we are at choice, we can opt for something that brings us a sense of balance.



Sometime during the day, focus on a specific experience and bring your full attention to the activity. You might choose a routine activity that you do every day like washing your hands or your face, brushing your teeth, making your bed, eating a meal or drinking, walking, or listening to someone. Just be awake for the activity, instead of letting your auto-pilot run. Pay attention to what you are doing and how you feel physically and emotionally while doing it. Notice your thoughts, feelings and body sensations. Really observe yourself in the moment. The aim is to establish a solid base for appreciative attention.

Being in an experience is more fulfilling – we’re there for it, involved in it consciously, feeling and sensing – and that can create a sense of balance. We’re not just in our heads; we’re open to our emotional response and physical sensations. It might not be that you need to do less to find balance, rather it might be that you can simply engage more in what you are doing.



Start or end your day in gratitude. When you go to bed each night or wake up each morning, name something from the day that you are grateful for. If you find this difficult, go beyond your experience of the day and include things you are generally appreciative of. You might identify people, places, things, feelings, activities, qualities such as friendship, home, flowers, joy, relaxing, or creativity, for example. Anything can be the object of your appreciation, even pain and mistakes that you grow from. You can do this in your mind, or you can keep a journal and record the objects of your appreciation.

Grateful appreciation is cleansing. It’s like removing a film that has been covering the lens through which we see our life. Being thankful is, in fact, much more than that – it is good for you. It can lead to greater optimism, acceptance, resilience, alertness, adventurousness, creativity, and health. And, with all of those qualities flowing through our lives, we counteract the negativity, resistance, burn out, disappointment, and just plain crazy busy-ness that can pervade our lives.


Learn more at the IBM Jobs blog I’m writing with my colleagues: Mindfulness Series.

You might also be interested in this previous post: Focus.


* I took the photo on Menorca, Spain on the path between Cala Macarella and Cala Macarelleta, where I felt strong and firm on the cliff’s edge as I relaxed with my husband Jim on holiday to balance a productive first half of the year at work.


Author: Vicki L Flaherty

I am most alive when I am creating, whether through writing, gardening, photography, cooking, crafting, sewing... Running and yoga enrich my being. I am happiest when I’m with my husband Jim. Travel opens me to new possibilities and greater awareness. I find a special joy when I’ve helped someone see their brilliance and express their full potential. As I've focused on living more mindfully, I've found special joy in expressing myself through poetry and photography, and in truly being in relationship with those I meet along my journey.

12 thoughts on “Creating Balance”

      1. Hi Vicky, thank you for sharing the positive messages with all of us. If appropriate I would like to share / discuss some articles that I have written that I think align with the objectives of the Leadership function you are part of. I have also been sharing with my group a daily dose of what I call “becoming better than we used to be”. This is a collection of thoughts that will activate the better you each day. It’s a thought with a short essay. For example ” Goals are like “truths” that have not happened yet”. Let me know if you have any interest in discussing this any further. Thank you. Hector /

      2. Hector, of course, I’d love to learn more! Sounds like you have some great ideas. Maybe we can find a time to connect by voice next week? Feel free to send me an invite. So great to hear from you!

  1. So you took that picture on the edge of a cliff while RELAXING? OMG… that is balance my friend! We won’t go into my current state. Congrats on your ability to share with the world both informative and inspirational material. I truly appreciate it, and value you!

    1. There was a path that many people had travelled! 🙂 Your current state is in high gear because you are in a ripe spot of making a difference! Keep on shining a light on people’s strengths, my friend!

  2. This is so true Vicki. “It might not be that you need to do less to find balance, rather it might be that you can simply engage more in what you are doing.” Martha Beck often quotes this from the Tao Te Ching: “When nothing is done, nothing is left undone”. I feel like it might take a lifetime for me to fully understand this, but I also know the more I am mindful and experience oneness, the more balanced I feel, the more seems to get done effortlessly. It’s quite amazing.

    1. Sunita, it does seem a bit challenging to get one’s head wrapped around! Thanks for sharing Martha Beck’s Tao Te Ching quote. I like it! So glad to be on the journey of mindfulness with you!

  3. Vicki I follow the Mindfulness blog and community in IBM. The movement you have started is so powerful and has influenced so many like me, who feel and do well due to mindfulness. Thank you!!

    1. Thanks for stopping by. So great to know that the community is touching people and having an positive impact across IBM.

  4. another great blog. Who doesn’t love that feel of balance and poise !! Maybe a nice visualisation standing on the peak of a ski filed or on a beautiful mountain

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