Mindfulness@IBM Community: Guiding Principles that Allowed us to Flourish

Stirling Castle, Queen’s Garden, Scotland

Mindfulness@IBM Community: The Guiding Principles that Enable Us to Flourish

As I sat at my desk reflecting on the past, I saw the seeds. They were beginning to sprout in the rich dark soil. I saw myself walk up to those brave little green leaves. I bowed to them before generously pouring water upon them.

Last week I had the opportunity to join the 5th Annual Mindfulness@IBM Summit and share the story of how the Mindfulness@IBM community started. What a joy to recall when our community first began watering seeds of mindfulness in Spring 2015 and to remember the initial segment of our journey of discovery and growth.

(You can read about the early days of the movement, at least as I know the story, via a couple of my previous LinkedIn articles. The first is a timeline with highlighted activities and events which you’ll find HERE, and the second is a curation of what I learned from leading the Mindfulness@IBM movement for 3 years through Summer 2018 which is HERE.)

Like a stream trickling down through mountain cervices, we were pulled and guided. There was something special about the way our journey unfolded – how we leaned into not knowing exactly where we were headed and how we simply held our dream of a company where everyone is fully present and awake.

While they were not explicit at the time, some foundational beliefs were core to our flow. Upon reflection, I’m able to see those principles, like threads weaving the tapestry of our story.

  1. Everyone is a learner and a leader. We all are privileged with our own rich experiences and inner wisdom. We can all learn from and share with each other. We trust our personal and collective insights to help and guide us as we connect, collaborate, and create.
  2. The path to knowing is experience. It’s helpful to have facts and information to understand. Yet, to truly know is to experience. And, the ways we can experience being present and awake and alive in the here and now are endless. There is no one way.
  3. Meet people where they are. People are at different points in their lives and their careers and their inner journeys. At any one point in time, we have different needs and desires and expectations. We learn and share in a variety of ways. We are open to what people need, not pushing or forcing, just allowing.
  4. Dwell in the real. We meet not only people where they are, but also circumstances where they were. We play with ‘what is’, without wishing things were different or pushing to make things a certain way. We dance in the reality of the moment and let the energy pull us.
  5. Diversity is fundamental. We appreciate and honor the differences that stem from the work we do, the organizations we work in, the countries we live in, the cultures we are part of. What is accepted and possible in one may not be in another. We are courageous in exploring together, seeking understanding from a place of appreciation for the vastness of what’s possible.
  6. Our shared humanity holds us together. By paying attention to our common values and desires, we come together in a powerful way. What we have in common as human beings living on this planet – struggles and dreams, desires and aversions, connection and solitude…these bring us together as family and hold us as one in community.

As we wrapped up the summit session, I found myself at my desk again. This time I saw how seeds I planted during my time with the community had been watered and nourished by others. I saw a garden, filled with beautiful grasses and flowers and trees, beyond what we could have imagined when we first started playing in the dirt.

I’m reminded that we are always planting seeds. We don’t always get to know who will water them or when, and which ones will flourish. If we simply begin, taking that one small step that invites energy and life and possibility, in no time we find ourselves in a wild and magical place beyond what we could have dreamed of.


If you’d like to hear more about the early days of the Mindfulness@IBM community, join me and Patrick Kozakiewicz and Emanuele Terranzani on The Present Show (episode 45). I also joined Patrick in a mindful leadership podcast not long ago.

Also, I have a few gifts for you. First, is Meditative Blossoms, a collection of my mindfulness poetry and flower photography. Second are several guided meditation practices that I recorded for the BlinkMinds online learning platform.

If you’re interested in mindfulness, you might also be interested in other mindfulness-related posts here on Leading with Intention:

You can follow me on my other blogs:

Being There

Shkodër, Albania

What a gift to be there for someone, to have another being open the door of their life and let you in.

I’ve been blessed this week to find myself standing before a couple of doors. When the door was opened for me, I stepped through, sat down at my friend’s table, looked across at the light of their being, and tuned myself to their station.

I’ve noticed that when I am fully present, really listening and opening with another person, something special often happens. A hard-to-describe connection forms. It’s like we are riding a wave together. Energy moves between and around us, a lightness arises out of darkness, a freedom opens where there was fear.

I’ve been reflecting on these experiences, wanting to better understand how we get to that place of surfing life together. The path is simple: be with the other person, fully present, open, devoting attention to whatever is going on in the moment with them.

There’s nothing for you to ‘do’.

It’s about BEing there, setting aside our own ego and walking into another’s space. There’s no sense of striving or helping, just an entering, stepping into the power of now with another person. We bring the gift of who we are, with our heart open, wide open, receptive, receiving. Our mind’s clear and alert. All our senses available to guide us. We listen – to words, feelings, energy. We sit curious about what’s wanting to emerge in the moment.

Consciously be ‘over there’ with them.

Being there for someone, being a gift to them is about meeting them where they are. We go to their front door and step into their home. We leave our ego next to the planter outside the threshold, where we can pick it back up when we depart. We follow and let the other person lead us through their house. We sit at their table with the essence of who we are, giving our whole self over to them, ready to understand their needs, feelings, desires and dreams. We are available to hold them gently in possibility and point to their light and their power. We invite an adventurous collaboration, exploring perspectives and discovering waiting potentialities together.

We give and receive the gift of each other’s presence in so many unique and special ways, through such varied circumstances.  May you find yourself at someone’s door, and give the gift of your presence. May you find someone waiting at your door, and receive the gift of their being.

The Powerful Question

Cappadocia, Turkey

“It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.”  ~Decouvertes

Questions explored honestly help us discovering our truth. Questions reflected upon with intention lead to understanding, self-insight, and clarity about things like who we are, what we want, and how we can take action. When we can express our wisdom with depth, we connect with others who share our dreams, who need what we can give, with experiences that enable us to grow and move with purpose.

“If we would have new knowledge, we must get a whole world of new questions.”  ~Susanne K. Langer

Questions invite us to look at ourselves, others and our circumstances from different perspectives. They help us break out of our habits, shift our default behaviors, and slow down our autopilot. Questions can lead us where we want to go. The simple, most powerful, direction-providing question I know is “What do I want?” Just 4 words. So simple, although looking within the answer can be challenging, especially when we are new to asking the question. (Like most things, if we practice asking it, it gets easer to answer over time.)

“Unanswered questions aren’t threats; they are challenges and catalyst.” ~Colin Wright

Questions engage us. They call us to look, listen, touch, feel – that is, to sense and make sense. We can find meaning when we open to the power of a timely and relevant question. Getting to that question in any given situation stems from immersing ourselves in the experience and being present with ourselves, those we are with, and the situation that surrounds us. Questions help us tune into the channel where we get signal and not noise.

“Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.” ~William S. Burroughs

Considering questions others have prepared (for example, these) can open our thinking and see the possibility in questions. In that spirit, I offer some questions that I hope invite exploration of “what if”. May you feel invited to consider a new response to whatever experience you’re contemplating today.

“Reason can answer questions, but imagination has to ask them.”  ~Ralph Gerard

What if I:

… released the pressure?

… rewrote the stories that do not serve me?

… didn’t have to know?

… allowed myself to be super curious?

… moved the bar against which I judge myself (others, situations, experiences)?

… made this easy and fun?  

… made taking care of myself a priority?

… trusted my intuition and insight?

… already have the courage I need?

… turned this into an opportunity?

… questioned the rules I use to shape my life?

… chose my words and actions with intention?

… took one small step right now?

“Confidence, like art, never comes from having all the answers; it comes from being open to all the questions.”  ~Earl Gray Stevens

When I wrote this post this morning, I didn’t remember that about a year ago I had posted on the topic of questions. That certainly reinforces that I see them as foundational to leading my life with clarity and intention. You might want to check out that post, too: The Questions We Ask.

BOTH Performance AND People

Knidos, Turkey

Hey, there! Looks like it’s been awhile since I’ve posted here on Leading with Intention. My energies have been focused on my photography (you can check out thejoyfulleye to see some of my work) and on poetry (check out And Then Opens Possibility for some of my latest pieces). I recently curated a collection of mindfulness-inspiring poems accompanied by my flower blossom photography at Meditative Blossoms.

In keeping with the poetry focus, this post features a prose-like poem that I was inspired to write after a conversation with a colleague where we were exploring some of the challenges in developing leaders today, with so much of leaders’ energy focused on the bottom line in these turbulent and challenging times (that also call for bigger doses of compassion than usual!).

 BOTH Performance AND People 

Why does everyone always assume that it’s black or white? (That's a rhetorical question, because, of course, we know, our brains are wired to simplify the complex, right?) (And, indeed, it’s an exaggeration because it’s so rare that everyone ALWAYS does something.) 

Some implicit dichotomy lies bare on the floor of the workplace: performance OR people. It’s sometimes subtle like cinnamon used in a savory dish, and maybe just as often it’s strong, like a heavy weight you carry on your back that makes your shoulders slump.  It rests under the words you use. Others can see it in the ideas you share. It might be so deeply embedded in who you’ve become that you don’t even recognize its presence within you. 

Isn’t it obvious that a healthy, successful culture needs both? That performance of an organization is totally reliant on the people? No people, no performance. Some leaders see only the performance lever and their eyes seem fixed - like a red-light pointer during a PowerPoint presentation - on success and all that we must do to achieve our targets. 

You have to wonder how they don’t seem to understand that pressure building reaches a point it must be released, that there’s a cost to be paid for all the pushing and plying, plowing powerfully forward like a puma on the plains, that the bill just hasn’t arrived, yet. Oh, but it will!

Are they afraid that, should we focus on the people, we’d end up coddling them, softening them into laziness and lose our advantage? Is the answer rules and structures and protocols that keep the grip so tight that an explosion is likely around any corner?  

What if, just what if, we recognized that humans work here, that those people delivering on behalf of the corporation, the people on your team, they thrive when they are seen for who they are as individuals and valued for what they bring and create. There is no company, no organization, no team without the people. Thriving people, thriving organization. Not just now, in this quarter, but for the long haul. The people make the place. You’ve got to remember that.  

There’s an invitation here. There’s a call to open to AND: Doing AND Being. Action AND Inaction. Thinking AND Feeling. Using our Minds AND Listening to our Hearts. Work AND Play. Masculine AND Feminine energy. Fast AND Slow. Noise AND Quiet. Pride AND Humility. Ambition AND Restraint. Holding on AND Letting go. Performance AND People. 

May we listen for the bidding, the call to embrace AND. May we see how things are both black AND white, and lots of shades in between and beyond those points. Yes, where we work is colorful and vibrant with so many beautiful spots where we can place our attention. May we widen our view and look for something beyond and new.  

Click HERE for an audio recording of the poem.

The Questions We Ask


We live in the world our questions create. ~David Cooperrider

Something I read made me think about questions, what they are, why asking them is important, which ones to ask. What surfaced for me is this.

The questions we ask engage the mind, shape our thoughts, inspire feelings, create energy, support our choices, and lead us to action.

Questions are powerful tools for living. Questions invite us into the moment, allow us to explore with our hearts and minds, and open us to experience life.

Questions guide our attention, shape our experience, and create our reality.

The important thing is not to stop questioning. ~Albert Einstein

Questions are wonderful tools for self-reflection. Questions can lead to important insights. We discover our truth when we explore questions that open our minds and our hearts. We find what’s important, what we want to create in the world.

Questions are rich for building relationship. When we ask someone a question – from a place of curiosity, and truly listen for their response – we can open a genuine dialogue, make a connection. A question can be like the energy that pulls two magnets together.

Questions can build community and shape collective energy. When we lean into what we don’t know and step into possibility, we begin to change the world.

The power to question is the basis of all human progress. ~Indra Gandhi

The questions to ask are not found in guidebooks. No, the question that serves a moment arises naturally when we create space for it, when we invite it, allow it and open to it. Questions emerge from listening to what our hearts need and tuning into what is happening right now. From here, our minds can shape powerful questions.

What questions do you ask? Do you even know? What questions do those around you ask? How do these questions make you feel? What do you experience in their asking? What questions do you ask others? What gets created when you explore the answers together?

Here’s a practice I’m trying as a way to better tune into questions arising in me:

  • Make space for stillness and inner silence, slow down.
  • Notice self-talk that flows within the quiet.
  • What is being said?
  • Open to what arises, without judging. Simply let the ideas move through.
  • Take a deep breath – long inhale and slow exhale.
  • Is there a desire, a curiosity, a wonder?
  • Name it, shape it, invite it to lead toward possibility.


* Photo: Columbine sprouting in my backyard, April 2020.

A mindful walk


Over the years, when I found something inspiring, I put it into the pile on a shelf in my office, now 4 inches high. This morning I pulled the stack from the shelf and began to explore the gifts inside. I came across some guidance for taking a mindful walk that I’d created with some colleagues for a leadership retreat we led each quarter for our new executives. I modified it (below) as a guide for myself – something I can be intentional about when I venture outside each day for a neighborhood walk with my husband Jim. Perhaps you’ll feel invited to give it a try, too, and see what happens?

A mindful walk

Getting Started

  • Pause, standing still and observing a moment of silence.
  • Notice your feet solidly on the ground, feel the strength of your legs, notice your core supporting you, allow your arms hang softly at your sides, reach your fingers out wide with your palms open, and let your neck and head stand tall toward the sky.
  • Take 3 deep, intentional breaths.

During your walk

  • Pay attention to your breath. Don’t try to change it, just notice it. When your mind wanders, simply bring it back to your breath.
  • As you walk, expand your awareness to your body. Feel it moving. Notice how it feels as your feet come down on the ground, how the muscles in your legs work as you walk, whether your core is engaged, how your arms are moving.
  • As you continue your walk, begin to move your attention outward. Notice your surroundings. What gets your attention? How does that feel?
  • After taking in the environment, bring your focus back to the experience of walking and your breathing. When you catch yourself thinking about something else, bring your attention back to the walk.

Wrapping Up

  • Take 3 deep, intentional breaths.
  • Fill your heart with gratitude…perhaps for your ability to move or your health, for the beauty of nature, for your mindfulness experience…whatever arises for you.
  • From this quiet place, set an intention for your day.

* I took this photo in San Agustinillo, Mexico, while on a morning walk with Celeste, the sweet girl who makes sure everyone at our hotel knows they are loved and appreciated.

We’re Human Beings Communicating With Each Other, After All

IMG_9044 (2).JPG

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Victor Frankl

That space which Mr. Frankl points to between stimulus and response offers us so much possibility. It is a place where we can take action that makes our intentions real.

Communication is a place that really benefits from finding that space. Our interactions matter, otherwise, we would have learned just not to engage with each other. Our relationships are affected by how we filter what goes on inside our heads and translate it into something we express externally in the world. Communication is a critical pathway to building and being in relationship because what we choose to express – and how we express it – with our spoken or written words affects others (as well as ourselves).

At some point many years ago, I started to notice the nature of the emails that I was receiving, both personally and professionally. What struck me was how frequently the message could have been generated by a machine and how they left me feeling empty. The sender often made a short statement which sounded a lot like a demand with no background, context, or acknowledgment.

I know. I know. We’re all busy. We don’t always have time to be kind or to explain. I get it. And, I expect that some portion of communication will be terse. Sometimes my interpretation of the message is blemished by my mood, or I’m overreacting or over-interpreting the intention.

That said, what proportion of our messages hold these terse, cold qualities? Is that how we want to be showing up? Is it really getting us what we want? What might our relationships be like if we showed a little more caring, especially where we have shared outcomes we want to achieve? Even though we are communicating via a computer, we are two people interacting with each other; therefore, we are in relationships with each other.

What’s the essence of the emails you receive? What are the qualities of the emails you send? Maybe you want to identify a handful of emails you’ve sent to different people over the past week and to read them, considering the reader’s perspective. Is there anything that conveys something personal, or does it sound like a computer could have generated it? Does it reflect a considered response, or something that seems fired off without much thought? How do you think the receiver felt when reading the email?

Noticing the machine-like quality of others’ emails, I began to see how my messages were that way, too. What I thought was ‘professional’ was empty, impersonal, and often not particularly helpful. I thought there might be an untapped power in my email exchanges so I started experimenting with what it would be like to ‘be human’ through my electronic communication.  Given that I worked remotely from my home office, collaborating electronically with people all over the world, this had the potential to affect my work in a hugely positive way.

I discovered that it is possible for people to feel your energy – yes, through words over media – when you are present and intentional about your communication with them. I learned that it is possible to spread joy and positivity through electronic communications. I found that taking a few extra seconds to be present while crafting messages made a difference. After years of testing, now I receive comments like this from my friends and colleagues: “You need to know in case I don’t tell you enough that I want to be like you. Your ability to acknowledge, to reflect, and to cheer on is second to none. Every time I read one of your messages, I always take such a deep breath. I can literally feel the stress and anxiety drip away. You remind me that I am ok and I can tackle anything.”

Here are some of the approaches I found effective.

  1. Envision the person you are about to engage with. Who are you sending the email to? Do you have a photo of them you could look at (e.g., a corporate directory)? If not, just take a moment to imagine them sitting across from you before you start typing. This simple task helps move from entirely self-focused to including the other person, which can positively influence communication, especially if we are upset or tense or uncertain.
  2. Begin your message with the person’s name. There is something very personal about one’s name. Just this simple step is so incredibly powerful because people appreciate being seen. Of course, many a computer is programmed to do this, so it alone is not a signature of human communication. ‘Saying it’ is not just for the recipient, it is also for you, the sender. It reminds you that you are ‘talking to’ a particular individual.
  3. Read the email aloud after you draft it. Notice how particular words make you feel. Notice the tone that comes across.  Is it too formal, too casual? Do you sound angry or unaffected? It’s amazing what changing a single word can do to shift the experience for the reader (e.g., eliminating the word ‘but’, removing any ‘should’s and ‘must’s, finding alternatives to angry or authoritarian words like ‘permit’ or ‘tolerate’). Notice how particular words make you feel
  4. Acknowledge something about the other person’s contribution or value. I often do this before I close and focus on something relevant to the work we’re doing together or about our friendship that is dear to me. For example, it might be a simple statement such as ‘I appreciate how you challenge us to put our best foot forward’ or ‘I love that you ensure we see all perspectives.’. This is another way of validating that we ‘see’ the other person.
  5. Sign your name at the end of the message. This reminds you that it is YOU who is communicating. This is a small way of saying, me, another human being, is sending this message to you.

A more general strategy that works with all kinds of communication is Me-You-Us. It goes like this:

ME: Start by looking inside yourself. Notice the voice inside that wants to respond, and what you want to say and why.

YOU: Look ‘across the table’ – that is, take a moment to see the other person. Recognize that you are relating to another person who has wants and needs, too. Put yourself in the position of the other person and consider what they need and the impact of your response on them.

US: Focus on outcomes – yours, theirs, and any shared and divergent goals or intentions you might have. Consider ways your response can create desired outcomes (e.g., connection, relationship, positive experience).

When we write an email we are interacting with another person. The words and tone we use build or break down personal connection. We always have an impact – it may be negligible or substantive, negative or positive – and we can be intentional about what it is we create.

When we are aware of how we are feeling as we craft our communication, when we put ourselves in the shoes of the recipient, when we write in a way that aligns with what we would like to be creating (e.g., strong relationships, positive outcomes), we increase the odds that our emails are something others are happy to receive.

Words are like magnets that polarize people or bring them together. If we pause before we respond – that is, if we take advantage of that space between whatever caused us to want to write a message and actually sending the message – we own our ability to create impact-full communication. When we are fully present when engaging with others, we can powerfully shift what’s possible.

If you liked this post, you might also be interested in these other posts I’ve written:

Mind Your Words-They are Powerful Seeds of Change

Setting the Tone

* I took these photos in Mexico. All but the last one were taken on Playa San Agustinillo; the last one on the main road out of Zipolite.

Uncovering Talent

“Talent, it seems, is energy waiting to be released

through an honest involvement in life.”

“…though we feel intermittently gifted, our gifts are ever-present. For if enlightenment stems from the clarity of being, then talent is no more than a clarity of doing, an embodied moment where spirit and hand are one. The chief obstacle to talent, then, is a lapse of being. It is not that people have no talent, but that we lack a clarity to understand what it is and how it works…Talent, it seems, is energy waiting to be released through an honest involvement in life. But so many of us check whether we have power with the main switch off – the switch being risk, curiosity, passion, and love…”
Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

As leaders, we are incredible opportunities to uncover talent and to support its realization. We can be part of the process of people’s unique and amazing qualities coming to life, part of creating a better world through the impact of this talent unleashed. We can invite understanding and insight among those we touch. We can be part of the process of others’ self-discovery and actualization.

And how do we engage in this way?

1. Listen with kindness and genuine caring
2. Be curious and open to what might be revealed
3. Explore, gently moving down the path of discovery by asking questions that arise from 1 and 2.

You can do this not only for others, but also with yourself. Indeed, doing it for yourself can be a powerfully positive step to being there fully present for others.

You can also follow me at:

5 Qualities for Sustainable Change – The HOW Matters

IMG_1163 (Sunscreen Filter)

To truly bring a vision to fruition requires attending to not only what happens but also to how it happens. Actions matter, although it’s the nature of their execution that’s the difference-maker. Yes, bringing others along can feel like things are going too slow, although that’s usually just in the short term; the momentum it creates downstream tends to carry the team further than they could have imagined.  Five qualities, that anyone and everyone on the team can embrace, have the power to carry a team and organization toward their vision.

IMG_1621 (2)

Everything you are going through is preparing you for what you asked for. ~Unknown


Identify clear and meaningful outcomes and create a plan to achieve them. Then, open to the many, often unexpectedly delicious ways things can unfold. We work in an ever-increasingly complex marketplace where organizations morph and change rapidly, and teams are increasingly diverse. Given this, how can we possibly know all the pathways to a desired outcome? What worked in the past doesn’t always work in the present. Group dynamics, whether bold or subtle, can invite things we didn’t dream of. Apparent obstacles arise, inviting us to shift our pathway, overcome challenges, and head boldly in new directions. Rather than force a plan or resist a shift from plan, sometimes the answer is to follow the energy.

  • Are we passionate about our purpose and the outcomes we want to achieve?
  • How tightly or loosely do we hold the details of our plan?
  • How do we engage with the unexpected?
  • What are we experiencing right now and what does it mean for how we proceed?


Be the change you wish to see in the world.  ~Mahatma Gandhi


What does it look like for someone to be or move toward the envisioned change? If you are bringing resilience to your organization, for example, you might show up with energy and role model with passion the actions you are inviting others to take, such as walking meetings, taking nourishment breaks, and so forth. If you are bringing mindfulness to your business, then personifying these qualities, for example, could invite others in: being present, having a sense of calm, making conscious decisions, and taking actions that lead to greater awareness. While it’s the outward energy others experience and actions others see, what matters most is your truly believing in what you are promoting.

  • How am I in alignment with the change?
  • Is there integrity between my actions and my words?
  • How do I embody what’s different?
  • How do I personify what’s possible?
  • What do I invite for others?


We rise by lifting others. ~Robert Ingersol 


Affirming the value that each person contributes is important. People want to be seen and appreciated – first for who they are, and then for what they accomplish. Each person on the team and the way each team interacts is special in a unique way that deserves celebrating. Just think about how you feel when you are seen and heard. Dare to imagine what might be possible if everyone felt like that. There is something very powerful in a culture filled with gratitude for each member of the team, the collective body, and the circumstances that will enable something new to emerge.

  • How often do I pause to appreciate what is happening?
  • How do I honor others who are part of the creative process?
  • How is this individual moving us toward our desired outcomes?
  • Do I believe in the members of my team and do they know it?


Noticing. What a gift. ~Byron Katie


Awhile back I watched a NOVA program about the discovery of copper, iron, and steel, and the smelting process and alloy-making. Did you know that all of that happened by chance? People were not in laboratories actively experimenting, they were paying attention to what was happening as they interacted with the world. As we engage with each other, what might be possible if we notice and truly pay attention to what’s going on within us, with others, and around us? Often we are so focused on responding and taking action that we miss the opportunity to be present for the experience of the moment.

  • What are we experiencing?
  • What ideas, energy, feelings are surfacing now?
  • What’s possible because of who we are, what we know, and how we feel in this moment?


I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than closed by belief. ~Gerry Spence


In this same NOVA program about metals, a woman was featured who discovered how to make metal from plastic garbage. What we see and judge as useless waste, with an open mind, can be put to good use. What we believe can limit what’s possible. There’s opportunity in openness.

  • What beliefs are limiting my perspective right now?
  • What would it look like if I were completely open about what’s possible from here?


Other posts you may like:


* I took the photos in my backyard:

  1. Chives growing in a perennial bed (edited with a Sunscreen filter). I like the collective nature of the flowers reaching for the sun.
  2. Phlox with multi-colored blossoms – first time these have appeared in our yard!
  3. Peony blossom.
  4. Columbine blossom that has lost it’s outer petals.
  5. Honeysuckle with Monarch butterfly visiting.
  6. Petunias blossoming in a hanging basket.


You can also follow me at:

Lessons learned from practicing mindfulness

Opps everywhere

Over the past 15 years, I’ve been experimenting with different mindfulness practices and learning from others. I’ve spent quality time with myself – for example, journaling my thoughts and feelings, keeping a gratitude journal, frequently STOP!ing during the day (see Experimenting with Mindfulness), meditating for 5-20 minutes a day… I’ve read practical, theoretical, research-based, spiritual and other mindfulness-related books*. I’ve attended retreats and practiced with experts and strangers. I’ve attended and led online and in-person practice sessions inside and outside of work. I’ve found that I tend toward simple, practical ways that wake me up to life and support my staying awake for the journey.

The most important lesson I’ve learned from practicing mindfulness is that opportunities to practice are everywhere. Opportunities to drop into a moment of awareness are available any time anywhere in any of a variety of ways. Lying in bed, standing at the kitchen sink, brushing teeth or taking a shower, walking or exercising outside…at any of these times, it’s possible to pause, tune in, and see what’s really happening in our lives, rather than running on autopilot. There’s incredible power in noticing when I’m caught in some self-created melodrama, and bringing my attention to my breath, thus shifting my attention from the thoughts running through my mind to what’s happening in my body. When I am able to make that shift, I find I am at choice: proceed with the melodrama and the consequences, or consider what I would like to be creating in my life and act accordingly.

A key principle that sticks with me is that how we are in our body affects how we are in our minds. I learned this from practicing at a weekend retreat with Rolf Gates, author of Meditations on Intention and Being. I learned to awaken my mind by taking an ‘awake’ posture – that is, a posture at the balance point between effort and ease, whereby our ears, shoulders, and hips in alignment. Whenever I notice that I am slouched over my computer or sitting with my arms crossed over my chest, I take a deep belly breath and slowly straighten my spine, coming into an awake posture, and instantly I feel a shift.

In our bodies

Mindfulness has taught me to see opportunities in front of me that I might have otherwise missed – opportunities to shift my mindset or attitude so that how I am being aligns with who I want to be. It could be while fixing dinner with my husband or in meeting with my team. It could be opportunities to smile at a stranger or acknowledge something special about another person.

Because of my mindfulness practice, I’m better able to trust, respect, and care for myself and others. I’ve learned that when I trust, respect and care for myself, I’m able to better do that for others.

Through mindfulness practice, I have learned to take chances and learn new things by opening to curiosity through my practice. I’ve learned to better see when I am afraid and how I need to be to show up brave in the face of fear.

* Here’s a list of my favorite mindfulness books:


If you missed the Experimenting with Mindfulness series I shared in May, here are some quick links to the featured posts:

A version of this blog was originally posted on IBM’s recruitment web site in December 2016.

Other Leading with Intention posts related to mindfulness:

* I took the lead-in photo in Sagres, Portugal and the other photo at Cala Boix, Ibiza, Spain.

You can also follow me at: