Being There

Shkodër, Albania

What a gift to be there for someone, to have another being open the door of their life and let you in.

I’ve been blessed this week to find myself standing before a couple of doors. When the door was opened for me, I stepped through, sat down at my friend’s table, looked across at the light of their being, and tuned myself to their station.

I’ve noticed that when I am fully present, really listening and opening with another person, something special often happens. A hard-to-describe connection forms. It’s like we are riding a wave together. Energy moves between and around us, a lightness arises out of darkness, a freedom opens where there was fear.

I’ve been reflecting on these experiences, wanting to better understand how we get to that place of surfing life together. The path is simple: be with the other person, fully present, open, devoting attention to whatever is going on in the moment with them.

There’s nothing for you to ‘do’.

It’s about BEing there, setting aside our own ego and walking into another’s space. There’s no sense of striving or helping, just an entering, stepping into the power of now with another person. We bring the gift of who we are, with our heart open, wide open, receptive, receiving. Our mind’s clear and alert. All our senses available to guide us. We listen – to words, feelings, energy. We sit curious about what’s wanting to emerge in the moment.

Consciously be ‘over there’ with them.

Being there for someone, being a gift to them is about meeting them where they are. We go to their front door and step into their home. We leave our ego next to the planter outside the threshold, where we can pick it back up when we depart. We follow and let the other person lead us through their house. We sit at their table with the essence of who we are, giving our whole self over to them, ready to understand their needs, feelings, desires and dreams. We are available to hold them gently in possibility and point to their light and their power. We invite an adventurous collaboration, exploring perspectives and discovering waiting potentialities together.

We give and receive the gift of each other’s presence in so many unique and special ways, through such varied circumstances.  May you find yourself at someone’s door, and give the gift of your presence. May you find someone waiting at your door, and receive the gift of their being.

Author: Vicki L Flaherty

I am most alive when I am creating, whether through writing, photography, gardening, cooking, crafting, sewing, yoga. I enjoy traveling because it opens me to greater awareness and new possibilities. I find a special joy when I’ve helped someone see their brilliance and express their full potential. As I've focused on living more mindfully, I've found special joy in expressing myself through poetry and photography, and in truly being in relationship with those I meet along my journey.

13 thoughts on “Being There”

  1. Outstanding post, Vicki, and you are so GREAT at BEing there. Have you seen the movie? It’s worth it if not. The idea of tuning to their station is so powerful. I *TRIED* to do it yesterday with a 10 year old boy, who is struggling. Did my best… (despite the age gap!!) Thanks for being so inspirational.

    1. I appreciate how you always come over and check out my posts and have something positive to share. I have not seen the movie so will have to check it out. I, too, have found that sometimes BEing there doesn’t always create that special connection, although it always feels good to keep practicing. As my yoga guide says, “no perfection, only practice.”

  2. Love the analogy of surfing through life together. Yes! Something magical happens when we are open, loving and let go of any personal agenda.

  3. Oh Vicki,

    I love your post on BEing there, I could hear your voice saying those words as I was reading the post 💗

    I know first hand you are a master in being present for someone’s “house” 😅 And I’m so grateful to have met you, my dear friend, your presence is always such a gift and your reflecting back what I’m unable to see is exquisite – you hold, cheer and inspire me time and time again… making it easier and abundantly delicious surfing life with you by my side!

    Celebrating your light as I lay here in the hot sand of Famara ✨


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  4. I just read your comment over on Val’s site and decided to stop by. I am a long-time meditator but have been taking the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) 8 week course this spring. Receiving your presence with joy. Thank you!

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